One of the most consistent and reassuring themes that we've encountered along the way during our adoption journey is the legend of the red thread. The legend goes:
"An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet,regardless of time, place, or circumstance.The thread may stretch or tangle,but it will never break."
Though originally told in regards to the relationship between man and woman, the red thread has become popular among the community of adoptive parents of children from China.
The red thread is an beautiful way to visualize complex and wonderful feelings that come with adoption. We had viewed the profiles of several other children during this process, all beautiful children, all in need of a family, yet the connection wasn't there. Then, one day, we open an attachment to an email and there she is...our daughter, no doubt.
Every other adoptive family we've had the pleasure to meet or read about has expressed a nearly identical experience..."when we saw him/her, we knew".
We love Chen, every bit as much as if we were waiting for her to be born next month. With the same certainty that we knew we loved Aaron, we already love this little girl. We take pride in the little we know about her accomplishments, cheering as we read about her independent streak, we feel sorrow for the sadness she has endured in her life to this point and we rejoice in the love that we have deep in our hearts for her.
So is there really a Red Thread beyond all the Red Tape? We certainly think so!
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Gung Hey Fat Choy! Happy Chinese New Year! We wish you all the best on your trip of a lifetime! We can't wait to meet your daughter! The girls will have so much fun playing together. Hope to talk to you before you leave! It was great to see you. The Smith Family DOES Rock!!:-) Love, The Thomases
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